How to Deal with the Biggest Relationship and Marriage Dilemma

The only way out of the human dilemma is forward — through the darkness of death and defeat and out into the light of a brand-new day.

Many have endured an affair. Others have suffered from abuse or addiction. But the common thread running through all these scenarios is the challenge  of reconciling when your relationship has been torn in two.

If you're facing that kind of challenge, don't forget about the  resurrection principle.

Ultimately, it’s the only way out of your difficulties. Troubled couples who don't understand this often fall into the trap of trying to recapture the feelings they had for one another back  in the “good old days,” before everything went wrong. It seems reasonable.  In the face of conflict, people tend to gravitate backward toward something familiar and predictable.

But that can actually complicate the healing process. It’s like moving back into the home where you grew up as a child. Certain things will be familiar, but it will never feel exactly like it did when you were a kid. You're older and see the world through different eyes now.

In the same way, there’s no way to go back to the time before your marriage nearly collapsed. Instead, the best plan is to get beyond it by directing your energy toward creating a “new normal.” Rather than sweeping problems under a rug and  pretending they never happened, learn to heal the wounds and create a new life. It can be tough to face the pain, but you'll come out stronger on the other side if you try. And the Good News is that, with God’s help, you can  do it through faith in Jesus Christ; for as the apostle Paul assures us,  “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new” (2 Corinthians 5:17).
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