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Proud Provider

A real man provides for his wife and he does it proudly. It does not matter whether the wife has a better job or earns more. A man needs to do all he can to ensure he provides. When the money comes from the wife because she has a better job, the man has to ensure that he deals with the landlord, pays the bills and his wife does not need to worry about having the bases covered. A man is meant to be a warrior who goes out to fight for his family, hunt for his family, conquer and bring in the bacon, ensure bills are paid, the rent or mortgage is covered and his wife is well. “But if any man does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. ” 1 Timothy 5:8

A real man proudly provides for his family and deals with any eventualities that arise. Are you a man? Stand up to be counted, take care of your stuff and let you wife know that you have it covered and she can rest knowing you are on it.

Persistent Protector 

A husband, any man that carries that title needs to persistently protect his wife. He needs to stand and protect her whether it is defending her from his relatives that treat her as a foreigner in his family, from the construction crew who embarrass her with their whistling or the tout who attempts to abuse her on her way to work. No man, no woman has the slightest right to put your wife down. They will have to deal with you and that is just how it is. A husband should open the door at night to see who is knocking, wake up in the middle of the night to check where the noise is coming from and pretty much ensure his wife and family are safe.

Prudent Planner

A husband is meant to be a leader who leads his family faithfully and consistently in every area of life. Any man worthy to be called a husband does not shy away from the role of leadership. He is a prudent man who thinks about the days ahead and plans the path the family will take in order to get where he and his wife need to go. He carefully considers the wife’s views, wisdom and consults with her and together they move forward. A prudent man foresees evil and hides himself, But the simple pass on and are punished. Proverbs 22:3

A prudent planner does not fear to listen to his wife’s advice, does not try to prop himself up as the boss but looks ahead to ensure the family is moving forward, looks around to ensure there is no danger coming, looks at his wife to assure her and communicates with her and looks up to God for direction, wisdom and help.

Passionate Pursuer 

A husband is a man who loved a woman and pursued her in love till he married her. Problem is, many husbands stop pursuing their wives passionately after they get married. A man ought to pursue with passion the woman he is married to. He ought to forsake all others and passionately pursue his wife. Give her that warm hug, look forward to meeting her for that passionate kiss and romantically treat her like a queen because she is. A husband should passionately pursue his wife with his words, he should speak romantically, he should speak with love and intimacy, if possible he should write poems, love emails and even compose songs for his bride. A husband should pursue his wife with romantic actions. Open doors if that speaks love to your wife, buy flowers, cook dinner, clean the house or whatever else that will communicate love to your wife. “You have captured my heart, my treasure, my bride. You hold it hostage with one glance of your eyes, with a single jewel of your necklace. Your love delights me, my treasure, my bride. Your love is better than wine, your perfume more fragrant than spices.” Songs of Solomon 4:9-10

There is my list of 4 P’s. What do you think of them? Are you a husband and have your own list of focus points? Be the men, the husbands you ought to be.

May your relationships and marriages thrive.

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