THE MARRIAGE INSTITUTION

Marriage is not what everyone thinks it is. It's not waking up early every morning to make breakfast and eat together. Its not cuddling in bed together until both of you peacefully fall asleep. It's not a clean home and a homemade meal every day. It's slammed doors and few harsh words, fights and the silent treatment, it's wondering if you've made the right decision. It is, despite all of those things, the one thing you look forward to every day. It's coming home to the same person everyday that you know loves and cares about you. It's laughing about the one time you accidentally did something stupid. It's about eating the cheapest and easiest meal you can make and sitting down together at 10pm to eat because you both had a crazy day. It's when you have an emotional breakdown and your love lays on the floor with you and holds you and tells you everything is going to be okay, and you believe them. It's when "Netflix and chill" literally means you watch Netflix and hang out. It's about still loving someone even though they make you absolutely insane. Living with the person you love is countless fights about absolutely nothing, but is also having a love that people spend their whole life looking for. It's not perfect and it's hard, but it's amazing and comforting and the best thing you'll ever experience. ❤️❤️

"MARRIAGE is like a shoe. When you wear oversize, be ready to drag it along through out life, and when you wear under-size be ready to feel the pains through out life".

One thing about marriage is that you don't drop your shoe or remove it at any point, no matter how painful or how stressful it is. That is why I thought it necessary to write you this letter.

Dear Singles, When you are ready to buy your own shoe please take note of these three things:

PHYSICAL APPEARANCE

Do not look for the beautiful ones, the nice ones or the cheap ones. Look for the one that is your size. Not every handsome, wealthy or intelligent guy is for you, not every beautiful woman is for you. Look for the one that aligns with your values and beliefs, the one who you meet at your life's journey.

POSITION

All sizes of shoes are not placed in the same place. There is a place for court shoes, laced up shoes, sport footwear, snickers etc. We have children's sizes, young people's sizes and the adult sizes. Know where to get your own shoe. Your size cannot be everywhere my brother, your type cannot be everywhere my sister. You cannot be a Christian, and be looking for a wife material at a club.

PERCEPTION

In this kind of shoe purchasing enterprise, you are not permitted to try the shoe before you buy. This is why it is important to seek guidance and counseling from people who have bought shoes before or are into the business of directing people to the right shoes (Pastors and Relationship Coaches). And most importantly to avoid much time wasting, simply consult the SHOE MANUFACTURER to tell you your size (GOD ALMIGHTY).

"You do not prepare for wedding only, you prepare for marriage." Ladies these days get so motivated when they attend weddings and they will quickly want to say yes to that guy.

Wait!!! It is not just the wedding oh. The wedding is just one day. After the wedding WHAT NEXT?

Finally, it is not something you rush to the market and just pick a shoe because you like or can purchase it. Ask questions like:

- Where is this shoe made from? (Background).
- What's the size (Values).
- How much (His/Her interest).
- How long will it last (His/Her Character).
- Who made it? (Is she/He of the same faith. This is compatibility).
- Will it match me? (This is whether he/she loves you and will accept you the way you are).