What happens the first time you have sex? Find out!

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Everyone’s “first time” is different. But one of the most important parts of being prepared for sex is making sure you use birth control and condoms to help prevent pregnancy and STDs. Here’s what happens when you lose your virginity.

Does it hurt to lose your virginity?

The first time you have vaginal sex, it may hurt or feel good, or both. There might be pain and bleeding the first time a penis or fingers go into your vagina, but it doesn’t happen to everybody. Some people naturally have more hymenal tissue than others — this pain and bleeding can happen when their hymen gets stretched.

If pain and bleeding doesn’t get better after the first time you have vaginal sex (penis-in-vagina), you can slowly stretch your hymen tissue with your fingers over time to make it less painful. In rare cases, people may need to see a doctor for a small procedure to open their hymen. If you're worried about your hymen or have pain during sex, talk with your doctor ASAP.

You may also have pain or irritation during vaginal sex if your vagina isn’t lubricated (wet) enough. It’s totally normal to not have a lot of vaginal lubrication, and it doesn’t mean anything’s wrong with you or your partner. Using lube can help make sex more comfortable. It may also help to wait until you’re fully turned-on before putting anything in your vagina.

For people with a penis, penis-in-vagina sex isn’t usually painful. Sometimes friction during sex causes irritation on your penis, but using lube can fix this. If you have pain in your penis or genitals during sex, it could be a sign that something’s wrong. Go to a nurse or doctor to get checked out.

Anal sex may hurt the first time (and every time) if you don’t use lube. The skin on your anus and rectum is delicate, and it doesn’t make its own lubrication the way vaginas do. So using lube reduces friction, which helps prevent pain and tearing.

Going slowly and making sure you’re relaxed are also important. Some people don’t even like the way anal sex feels, even if they do all these things — that’s totally normal and okay.

Nobody should have sex that feels uncomfortable or painful. If something hurts, stop. And if you’re having pain during any type of sex that doesn’t go away, visit your doctor.

Can you get pregnant when you lose your virginity?


Whenever semen (cum) or pre-cum gets in your vagina, pregnancy can happen — whether it's your first time or your hundredth time having sex. Pregnancy can also happen if cum gets on or near your vulva (your outside genitals), or if fingers that have wet cum on them touch your vulva or vagina. Remember: it only takes one tiny sperm to cause pregnancy.

That’s why lots of people use birth control and condoms whenever they have sex. Using birth control is the best way to prevent pregnancy if you have penis-in-vagina sex. Adding condoms gives you extra pregnancy protection and — BONUS — helps protect you from STDs, too. 

Is it possible for a penis to not fit into a vagina?

It's possible, but it’s not very common. Vaginas are pretty stretchy. Most vaginas are between 3 and 7 inches long. And vaginas can stretch much longer and wider during sex and childbirth. But rarely, some penises won’t fit comfortably into some vaginas.

If a penis goes very deep in your vagina and hits your cervix or other areas, it can feel uncomfortable or painful. You can usually avoid it by trying different positions, going slower, or asking your partner not to put their penis in as deep.


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