Constant Arousal During Pregnancy: Why and What to do!

Aroused pregnant woman.

I'm pregnant and am like constantly horrnnyy... I wasn't even like this when I first lost my virginity...is there something I can do/take to lessen this..it gets to the point where it hurts not to "fix my problem.

You are a walking hormone factory when you are pregnant.

Added to this blood is rushing to your genital area, this increases the heat and wetness. So it is understandable that this is happening to you, your body is after all in the aroused state through these changes. It does not happen with every woman or every pregnancy, but it is very definitely not abnormal.

There is nothing much you can do about it. It may just go away as your pregnancy progresses. Try to keep your genital area dry and cool. No tight pants, panties with cotton crotches or even no panties when appropriate. Pat your vulva dry whenever it is wet. Remember to wash regularly with just clean water between your folds, lips and under your clitoris hood. Secretions can irritate your clitoris and it may be interpreted as arousal by your brain.

What to do!


Find something to do to take your mind off your needs. The strength of your desires depends on your brain and genitals syncing up to tell you-you are horny. If you occupy your brain, there is less chance that this will happen.

Masturbation is just fine when you are pregnant. Unless your doctor told you not to, the hormones being secreted into your brain and blood by orgasms are good for you and your baby. It will make you relax and sleep easier. Obviously, you want to make sure everything is extra clean and that you are in a private place and comfortable.

Make love. Sex is safe during pregnancy, does not harm babies, and can be a wonderful way to connect with your partner and your body.

Unless you are instructed by a medical provider, to not have intercourse, sex during pregnancy is safe and can have multiple benefits including relaxation, intimacy with your partner, improved sleep, can strengthen pelvic floor muscles, and oxytocin is released during sex and orgasm and is wonderful for bonding with your partner and facilitating relaxation and stress relief. Many women experience an increased ability to orgasm due to changes in their bodies during pregnancy and increased blood flow. The uterus changes position and size during pregnancy which can result in the stimulation of different areas of the vagina and clitoris and can change or enhance the experience of sex and orgasm.

Obstacles to having an enjoyable sex life during pregnancy can result from the experience of a loss or the fear of a miscarriage. Anxiety around this can impact libido and desire for sex. Please discuss your concerns with your provider or seek therapy support if you find you are struggling with this and know that intimacy and sex do not cause pregnancy loss. If you have had a miscarriage in the past please do not blame yourself for having had sex and thinking that could have contributed to your loss.

Some women struggle with a desire to be intimate as a result of fatigue and nausea in the first trimester. Treat this first trimester period as a time to focus on connecting with your partner in non-sexual ways such as cuddling, spending quality time together, or massaging each other.

Some side effects of sex in this early stage could be some light spotting and light cramping (particularly after orgasm.) There are several reasons for a little spotting or bleeding in early pregnancy. The cervix receives a bit more blood flow and can spot a bit after orgasm or sex. This is not a sign or cause of miscarriage. Many women also have early pregnancy bleeding due to a sub-chorionic hemorrhage. 

While this sounds serious and awful, it is a tiny blood-filled area in the uterus usually caused by the attachment of the embryo. It fills with blood and sometimes causes enough bleeding to escape the cervix. While this can be terrifying in early pregnancy, it is not a cause of miscarriage (3%of these cases result in loss which is consistent with overall miscarriage rates.) Remember, bleeding in early pregnancy in the absence of cramping is typically fine, cramping without bleeding is also typically just fine. Always check in with your provider if you feel concerned.

As nausea decreases and energy returns in the second trimester, sex tends to increase as women report they feel best in the second trimester. There can be an increase in sex drive in the second trimester as a result of hormonal changes. After feeling depleted in the first trimester, it can feel nice to reconnect with your partner through sex. Certain positions might start to be uncomfortable, so it is very important to have good communication with your partner, so that sex is pleasurable and comfortable as you make adjustments for your changing body.

As you progress in your pregnancy and enter your third-trimester different positions during sex will be needed as your belly expands. Listen to your body in regards to whether sex feels good or not, make sure appropriate physical support is in place and notice how your body is responding and make changes as needed. One common concern is that the baby bonked on the head by the penis in later pregnancy. This will not occur as there is approximately 4cm of the cervix, uterine wall, amniotic sac and fluid around your baby, not to worry!

Some feel that “gets the baby in, gets the baby out.” If you are near or past your due date, sex can be a wonderful way to encourage labor. Sex and orgasm release oxytocin which can assist in moving along labor that is near to begin. Sperm/seminal fluid can also assist in softening the cervix when it is already ready. Don’t worry, sex will not encourage labor if it is not already impending.

Overall keep in mind everyone's journey is different from start to finish from conception to delivery, I hope to have clarified and answered many common questions for first-time pregnancy family’s and assured you that when in doubt simply reach out to your provider, they’re here to help.

They can check your hormone levels. The chances are that everything is good that and there is nothing wrong.

Take care and best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy!

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